• Our eyes were opened when two pastors from a local church reported that in a meeting to discuss issues with the local CTMI pastor in Hillcrest KZN they were told “If the parents are upset, the child can come and live with me or with her mother” – and then mentioned the senior female leader in the church.
• What followed was most of our family members leaving home and living with CTMI leaders or members rather than in the homes of their birth and upbringing with loving parents and siblings. Most then left for Mauritius with little or no discussion with parents.
• When challenged on this, the standard response has been: "Jesus has come to bring a sword in families not peace"
• Spiritual family now supersedes biological family. (A member who had been in Mauritius for six months ignored a celebratory, homecoming meal prepared by his family. He  immediately rushed out to be at a local CTMI meeting. When his grandmother asked why he didn’t think family were important, his reply was - “they are my family”)
• We all experienced what Carol Giambalvo says in her study "Family Interventions for Cult Affected Loved Ones":

“One of the first things a cult does is undermine the outside relationships of a new recruit. The primary attack is on the parents and family. For this reason, approaching the cult member armed with negative information about the cult, no matter how credible it seems, will not work. It is important to remember that because of the cultic pressures and manipulations, the cult member’s family of origin has lost its credibility.”

• Similarly, it soon became clear that CTMI became the primary if not the only social circle of our family members. They mostly are employed by the church or in church member’s company’s and have married within the church. One of them was discouraged from going on a fishing trip with friends outside the church. Another refused to join the family on their usual annual holiday. Former close friends reported to us how sad they were at having “lost” the close friendship of our children. This included Christian friends from other churches.

All our children have at one time or another told us they can no longer have anything to do with us or have threatened this if we do not cease our “persecution” of their leaders.